A few years back, after my marriage was destroyed, the Lord began to show me how to be a better mom. I went through three different parenting classes. I just felt that I was insufficient being responsible for these children the Lord gave to me on loan. I recently came across my journal of my notes, thoughts and verses that began to transform me into a better mom, a better person, a better woman of the Lord. I want to share these things with you.
We know what the “world’s view” of woman should be, so I won’t even discuss it here. But, what does the Bible really say about Christian mothers? One of the most important roles that the Lord chose for many women like you and I, is being a mother. We are told to love our children in Titus 2:4-5.
“Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” ~ Titus 2:4-5
The Greek word for “love” in Titus 2:4 is “phileoteknos” which means a special kind of “mother-love.” It appears no other place in Scripture. The idea that flows out of “phileoteknosis that of “preferring” our children, “caring” for them, “nurturing” them, “affectionately embracing” them, “meeting their need, “ “tenderly befriending” each one as unique from the hand of God. What we see is that not only has God endowed us as women with the ability to mother, not only has He equipped us uniquely, but He has also commanded us to see “mother-love” as our responsibility.” No one else can love our children like we do!
“Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; they will not be ashamed when they speak with their enemies in the gate. Children are a gift from the Lord.” (Psalm 127:3-5).
As parents (mother and father) we are commanded to do many things in Scripture:
We are to be available morning, noon, and night (Deuteronomy 6:6-7)
We are to be involved… interacting, discussing, thinking and processing life together (Ephesians 6:4)
We are to be teaching… the Scriptures, a biblical world-view (Psalm 78:5-6, Deuteronomy 4:10, Ephesians 6:4)
We are to be training… helping a child develop skills and discover his strengths (Proverbs 22:6)
We are to discipline… teaching the fear of the Lord, drawing the line consistently, lovingly, firmly (Ephesians 6:4, Hebrews 12:5-11, Proverbs 13:24, 19:18, 22:15, 23:13-14, 29:15-17)
We are to nurture… providing an environment of constant verbal support, freedom to fail, acceptance, affection, unconditional love, (Titus 2:4, 2 Timothy 1:7, Ephesians 4:29-32, 5:1-2, Galatians 5:22, 1 Peter 3:8-9)
We are to modeling with Integrity… living what you say, being a model by which a child can learn by “copying” the essence of godly living (Deuteronomy 4:9, 15, 23; Proverbs 10:9, 11:3; Psalm 37:18, 37).
In the lives of the children, mothers have an exclusive and a remarkably important role. Motherhood is not a chore or unpleasant task. Motherhood is a blessing. Mothers play an ongoing role from pregnancy to infancy, from childhood to teenagers, from young adult to fully-grown children. Mothers’ role is ongoing, ever changing and developing the love, care, nurture and encouragement that the child needs. This should never cease!