No emotion is more destructive to human relationships than anger. I read an article that stated that one counselor reported that 50% of his clients who came in for anger issues had problems in dealing with anger. Anger is a strong emotion. It can shatter communication and tear down your house. It will drain the joy and love out of your home quickly. Majority of the time, people will try to “justify” their anger instead of dealing with it, and this could be dangerous.
Jesus made teaching about anger control an important part of his ministry. He made the point to say “that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment.” (Matt 5:22), and that if “your brother has something against you… be reconciled” (Matt 5:23) with them immediately. The Lord tells us “love our enemies” (Matt 5:44), even those we are angry with and those who have gotten angry with us. We shouldn’t carry anger in our hearts. To love them, we must first forgive them using the means by which we get rid of anger.
In Ephesians 4: 26-32, Paul gives us practical rules for managing our anger:
“In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. He who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with his own hands, that he may have something to share with those in need.
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:26-32
Most of us have experienced anger from one time or another, but we do not know much about it. Let us look at anger as another emotion that we experience, and how we can manage it through the power of the Holy Spirit.