Steps to Defuse Anger in Parenting – Part Three

This is a continuation from “Part Two.”

To begin with “Part One“, click here.

The third step is to realize what pushes the hot buttons. For example, frustrations on not getting things done, unfulfilled expectations, not getting your way, etc. are some of the things that pushed my hot buttons. I have heard of many hot buttons over the three years I spent in counseling women. The point is, find yours and stay alert!! Give up these expectations and frustrations and replace them with God’s control. “My soul, wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.” Psalms 62:5.

Do not allow a brief outburst of anger take root. The first flash of emotion isn’t sin in itself however, if we continue or “entertain” such an emotion by allowing it to take root in our minds and heart, it becomes SIN.

When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down. Leave no [such] room or foothold for the devil [give no opportunity to him].” Ephesians 4:26-27

God’s grace is great! When you “blow it” make things right with the offended person as quickly as person. Make every effort to keep communications lines open by lovingly, and prayerfully explaining how you feel. The offended person will most likely be receptive. Your tone of voice and your body language is very important.

God says: “A SOFT answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.The tongue of the wise utters knowledge rightly, but the mouth of the [self-confident] fool pours out folly.” Proverbs 15:1-2.


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