Children are provoked to anger by consistently being disciplined in anger. I am reminded of a story of a five year old girl who had anger issues. She was so frustrated she took it out on her baby. She had not other channel to release her anger. Come to find out, her father was a very angry man and he was the disciplinarian in the home.
God says: “. . . the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God” (James 1:20).
The following quote gives us an excellent example of this verse:
“Why do you become angry at your family members when they don’t respond to you? Why do you get angry at the kids when they don’t pick up their room, mow the lawn, or dry the dishes properly? Anger expressed by yelling at a son who does not mow the lawn carefully does not teach him how to do it correctly. Angry words directed to a sloppy daughter do not teach her how to be neat. Step-by-step instruction (even if it has been given before) can help solve the problem.” ~ H. Norman Wright
When we first start to get angry, we should look at our motives. Is the offense against ME or against GOD? We should teach our children that sin is first an offense against God. God HATES sin. As a result, children must learn how to confess their sins by name, ask the offended person and God for forgiveness and then ask the Holy Spirit for victory in this area.
“BE ANGRY, AND yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity.” Eph. 4:26-27