Children are provoked to anger by not having marital harmony within the home.
Children aren’t stupid. They know when there is disunity between parents. Failure to agree on biblical standards of behavior and how to correct disobediences is an example of disharmony. Most of the time, one is overly strict while the other is too lenient to make up for the harshness. The idea is to create balance, the uptight spouse needs to lighten up with the lenient spouse should toughen up.
“For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24
“Pursue peace with all men, and the sanctification without which no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitternessspringing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled” Hebrews 12:15
Discord in the family begins when a husband and wife violates God’s command to become “one flesh.” When spouses do not pursue peace by arguing with one another in front of the children is an example of marital discord. Disagreements are best left to be discussed in private using God’s principles. If we don’t, many are defiled.
Establish simple rules together such as Non-negotiable of Biblical commands (no stealing, hitting lying, cheating, etc.) and House rules rooted in biblical principles. Here is a copy of our House Rules. You may use this only as a guideline to prayerfully considering your own copy through Christ Jesus.